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MY


MARRIAGE


SHALL NOT


BREAK


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APPRECIATION

I give special appreciation to my wife MRS NGOZI OLAYERI for her assistance in ensuring that this book is published and our children that play around us to encourage us day and night.

Also, this manuscript wouldn’t have seen the light of the day, if not for the spiritual encouragement I gathered from my father in the Lord, Dr. D.K. OLUKOYA who served as spiritual mirror that brightens my hope to explore my calling (Evangelism).


We shall all reap our blessings in heaven but the battle to make heaven is not over, until it is won.












LANGUAGES USED IN THE BOOK

You are welcome to warfare language in this book. Language, such as fall down and die, be roasted by fire, wither, summersault and die etc are used by spiritual soldiers or warriors facing spiritual battles against powers of darkness.

Who are your enemies? Ephesians 6:12 says it all. “But we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against power, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places”, not your step mother, your parent, in-law or neighbour as presumed by people. Hence, our enemies are powers that inject poverty, failure, sicknesses, diseases, sorrow and tears into a life.

The Holy Bible supports strict action against them. Exodus 22:18 says “Thou shall not allow a witchcraft to live while. Matthew 11:12 says “The kingdom of God suffereth violence and the violent taketh it by force” Hence the use of violent language.

In battle you don’t settle for less but complete victory. Never accept substitute for original.

Therefore fire on; after all it is fire for fire!






HOW TO USE THIS BOOK

This book is primarily written to serve the purpose of counseling, prayers, understanding and love needed by couples, because a happy home is a sign of successful marriage.

Use this book with all seriousness and improve on the art of your prayer strategy to enable you reap blessings that abound in a successful marriage.

Chapter fourteen of this book is specifically written for men while chapter fifteen is written for women. In all, parents can combine the prayer points for children in chapters fourteen and fifteen to form a hundred prayer points for their children.

Prayers in this book can be used for night vigil to nullify threat against marriage.

You are advised to support this book with my earlier prayer book titled FIRE FOR FIRE. It contains volcano of prayers that will expose, paralyze, defeat and destroy satanic powers.




PREVIOUS PUBLICATIONS OF THE AUTHOR

1. Fire for Fire Prayer Book Part 1

2. Fire for Fire Prayer Book Part 2

3. Bye Bye to Poverty Part 1

4. Bye Bye to Poverty Part 2

5. My Marriage Shall Not Break

6. Prayer for Pregnant Women

7. Prayer for Fruit of the Womb

8. Children Deliverance

9. Prayer for Youths and Teenagers

10. Magnetic Prayer for Singles

11. Freedom for Tenants Part 1

12. Freedom for Tenants Part 2

13. I Shall Excel

14. Atomic Prayer Points

15. Sex Terrorists

16. Deliverance from Spirit of Dogs

17. Escape from Palace of Immorality

18. Power to Overcome Sex in the Dream

19. Strange Women! Leave My Husband Alone

20. Dangerous Prayer against Strange Women

21. Solution to Unemployment

22. 630 Acidic Prayer Points

23. Prayer for Job Seekers

24. Power to Retain Job and Excel in Office

25. Warfare in the Office

26. Power to Overcome Unprofitable Wealth

27. This Year is My Year

28. Deliverance Prayer for First Born

29. Deliverance Prayer for Good Health and Divine Healing

30. Warfare Prayer against Untimely Death.

31. Dictionary of Dreams

32. Discover Gold and Build Wealth

33. My Head is not for Sale

34. 830 Prophecies for the head

35. 30 Power Points for the Head

36. Prayer after Dreams

37. Prayer to Locate Helpers

38. Anointing for Eleventh Hour Help

39.100% Confessions and Prophecies to Locate Helpers

40. Hidden Treasures Exposed!

41. Prayer to Cancel Bad Dreams

42. Prayer to Remember Dreams

43. 1010 Dreams and interpretations

44. 650 Dreams and Interpretation

45.1,000 Prayer Points for Children Breakthrough

46. Emergency telephone calls of God

47. I Am Not Alone

48. My Well of Honey shall not dry







CONTENTS

1. Thirty Golden rules for a happy home

2. Thirty wise sayings of marital success

3. Avoid 50-50 marriage system

4. Housing the Ark of God

5. Conquering immoralities

6. Can a Christian divorce?

7. War against spirit husband and spirit wife

8. Crushing Marriage crushers

9. Mold your children for a better future

10. Anger, an evil sword against marriage

11. How to overcome anger

12. Duties and roles of couples

13. Praises and worship songs

14. 100 Prayer points of husband to wife

50 Prayer points of father to children

15. 100 Prayer points of wife to husband

50 Prayer points of mother to children








CHAPTER ONE


THIRTY GOLDEN RULES FOR A HAPPY HOME


Love is a fabric that never fades, no matter how often it is washed in the waters of adversity and grief. Let your marriage experience harvest of blessings through love and discipline. Build an ideal marriage; one in which two people love, cherish and encourage each other through all the troubles caused by it.

Love is blind while marriage is an eye opener. Marriage is not bed of roses because the most difficult years of it are those following the wedding. It is like the army-many complain, but you’d be surprised how many re-enlist.

Empower your marriage with love and understanding. A broken home is the world’s greatest wreck. Winston Churchill said “My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me” Wonderful!

Achieve great height in your marriage by absorbing the following thirty cardinal rules needed to build a prosperous home, for “ If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand” Mark 3:25.


RULE 1: BE A BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN.

The cardinal rule for a Christian couple is to be born again. Never should new wine be added to old wine nor should couples apply the attitude of one leg in, one leg out. This is dangerous to divine upliftment. Brethren, know that a Christian is not renovated like an old mattress, for the new birth is not a reformation or a renovation but a new born creature, for it is written “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation, the new has come” 2Cor. 5:17


RULE 2: HAVE FOCUS ON GOD’S PROMISES FOR YOU.

Weariness is a spiritual sickness while prayerlessness, is a sign of marriage failure. Never allow any problem facing you to override you, for problems are common to men; solutions are common to believers. Whenever you quit studying the problems and start studying the promises of God for you, you are making a head way. “What you see determines what you get. As long as you keep on seeing problems, you can never see good” Hebrew 12:1-2.


RULE 3: MAKE BEST USE OF TIME

Take time to think-it is the source of power

Take time to play - it is the secret of perpetual youth

Take time to read-it is the fountain of wisdom

Take time to pray-it is the greatest power on earth

Take time to laugh - it is the music of the soul

Take time to work- it is the price of success

Take time to be friendly- it is the road to happiness

Take time to give - it is too short a day to be selfish.


RULE 4: BUILD YOUR HOME ON A SOLID ROCK.

It is important for couples to build their home on a solid Rock-The Rock of Ages. A home built on sandy foundation constitute moral deficit and if attacked may crumble. Hence, let sound moral standard and prayerfulness be your spiritual light.


RULE 5: BE HOPEFUL AT ALL TIMES

Upheavals may be experienced in marriage but it shouldn’t be allowed to erase the joy and laughter needed at home. Don’t lose to Satan, conquer him. You may have had a knock down in life, but never accept a knockout. “Challenges are not meant to break you but to build you, His grace will always be sufficient for you” 2 Cor. 12:19. Anytime you succeed, “You are more than a conqueror” Romans 8:37.


RULE 6: LOVE AND FORGIVE OTHERS.

Paramount to being born again is to love and cultivate the culture of forgiveness. Couples are advice to love and forgive each other in times of misunderstanding. Love without return is like a question without answer. Love and forgiveness may be costly to practice but they are the price of good relationship. To forgive is not to lose the victim off the hook alone but releasing yourself from worries. “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly father will also forgive you” Matthew 6:14.

Couples should further make it a golden rule not to keep malice, grudges or mistakes made by others against them. Refusing the past to pass is enough to rob you of seeing the future. Forgiveness saves the expense of anger and the cost of hatred. He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass. Do forgive and forget ugly issues for whenever this is done, it is recorded as bonus for you in heaven. Realise that each time you let go someone, God will let you into his abundance of mercy. Unforgiveness is a sin, it cast you out from the presence of God.


RULE 7: WORK AS A TEAM

United we stand, divided we fall. When one lights the fire the other fans it. All your strength is in union. All your danger is in discord. A lot of people are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.


RULE8: PROVOCATION MAY LEAD TO PROMOTION

Couples may experience provocation through friends, neighbours or In-laws. They have to keep calm, for there is a saying that those who provoke you may end up in promoting you. Let the sayings in James 1:19 which says “Let every men be swift to hear, slow to speak slow to wrath” be your watch word, for Proverbs 14:17 says “He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly”. By this in your everyday life “See every provocation as promotion” I Cor. 13:15.


RULE 9: APPLY WISDOM AT ALL TIMES

Apply wisdom when counseled. Have a deep taught before you speak. He who talks without thinking runs more risks than he who thinks without talking.

A fool tells what he will do; a boaster tells what he has done; a wise man does it and says nothing. From the errors of othrs a wise man corrects himself. A fool says, “I can’t”, a wiseman says, “I will try”. Caution is the eldest child of wisdom A small decision now can change all your tomorrow.


RULE 1O: AVOID HOME WRANGLINGS.

Quarrel should not be given breathing space at all in your matrimonial home for it breeds disharmony and separation among coupes. Love is what changes a house to a home, for the size f the house never indicate the quality of love found within. What a couple needs is a home not a house. Proverbs 25:24 says, “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.”

There was a case of a brother who had misunderstanding with his wife. The wife in anger sought the help of a herbalist who gave her an evil powdery substance to apply on her husband’s food. She did it as directed. Shortly after taking the meal, her husband left home on an Israelite journey by leg from Sagamu a town in South Western part of Nigeria to his home town in Ondo State. Fortunately for this brother, one of the driver of his company saw him trecking in a thick forest along Benin-Ore express way. It took a combine team of friends to locate and overpower him for treatment. The wife of the man later confessed that what she wanted from the herbalist was to make him the tail and she the head of the house!


RULE 11: DO SMILE ALWAYS

Couples should always smile because the cause of a smile can set a lot of things straight. A smile is God’s cosmetic, a wrinkle that should not be removed. It improves face value.

A smile confuses an approaching frown. A laugh is a smile that bursts. It takes seventeen muscles to smile and forty-three to frown. The fruit of love is service. The fruit of service is peace. And peace begins with a smile.


RULE 12: DESIRE GOOD THINGS ALWAYS

Wife, as you desire good for yourself so shall you desire good for your husband, same measure is expected of husband as well. Your desire is the platform for God’s manifestation of purpose in your life. Hence, your strongest desire, talents and opportunity will reveal God’s calling and dream for your life.


RULE 13: NEVER TRY TO PLEASE EVERYONE

God’s guidance is paramount to you when giving out. Avoid occupying your home with relations and friends. Never borrow to satisfy others at your expense. Apostle Paul knew this when he said, “For if I yet please men, I should not be the servant of Christ” Galatians 3:10.

Satisfying people knows no boundary. An illustration can be likened to a brother, who out of love formed the habit of slaughtering fowl every Saturday during the stay of his mother with him. The dividend of love expected in return was paid back with evil arrow. What happened was that immediately his mother left them for village

, she went into their meeting and report her daughter-in-law of frivolous accusations. Unfortunately for her the arrow she fired backfire and consumed her. Brethren, I prophesy into your life that as you read on, every arrow that might have been fired against you shall go back and locate the sender, in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.


RULE 14: AVOID DISOBEDIENCE TO GOD.

Couples should note that there is something which is worse than living with a mate in disharmony. It is living with God in disobedience, for the Lord magnified His word above His name. “For you have exalted above all things your name and your word”. Psalm 138:2.


RULE 15: SET GOOD STANDARD

Dear couple, beware that no circumstance, no person or combination of persons can conquer you as long as you don’t destroy your prospect. Your family is what they are, by the standard you set. Apostle Paul said “I am what I am by the grace of God”.

Good understanding in a home may reveal satanic power. There was a case of a family that employs a “spider spirit’ housemaid. The situation is that the couple fights without reason. As Christian, the couple decides to have joint fasting and prayer program for three days. This action paid off almost immediately as the housemaid made unexpected revelation that she do turn to spider and stay in the ceiling of the house where she will fire her arrow at the couple. The arrow, she said sparks quarrel between them. This is why in my Church, the spirit of spider and cob webs are seriously addressed.


RULE 16: WELCOME NO SATANIC VOICE

Don’t allow satanic voice or advice to reign in your home, for people who listen to what devil says never hear what God says. Know that faith and fear comes by hearing. While faith comes by hearing the word of God, fear comes by hearing the word of the devil. Satan’s mission is to attack the mind and choke the word of God in you.


RULE 17: BUILD A GOOD FAITH

Couples should always build wall of hope around themselves. They should not lose hope at any point in time, for when hope is lost, faith becomes eternally barren. Hope is the leg that gives faith motion, for where there is no faith situation becomes hopeless.


RULE 18: FULFIL YOUR JOURNEY ON EARTH

Lovely couple, realise that life is a journey while marriage is just a fragment part of it. Let the four eyes of both of you be divinely glued together as one eye. Matthew 6:22 says “The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light”.


RULE 19: PRAY ALWAYS

Couples should pray without season and have the belief that their prayers have been answered according to their petition.

Whenever you pray, use the word of God to back it up scripturally, for God is His word. If this is so, can God fail Himself? No


RULE 20: MAKE SAVINGS A TASK

Couples should discipline their taste in order to build savings, for it is written “and thou shall lend unto many nations, and thou shall not borrow” Deut. 28:12B. Worry can destroy the foundation of marriage, hence couples should wisely handle the 3F:-

(a) FOOD: What to eat or drink

(b) FUTURE: what tomorrow will be

(c) FASHION: what to put on.

Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink or about your body, what you will wear... who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? Matthew 6:25-27.


RULE 21: AVOID ALCOHOLISM.

Boozers are losers! Why battle your way to the top and battle your way to the bottom? If you avoid drinking, you shall get the followings:- the head is clearer, the health is better, the heat is lighter, and the purse is heavier.


RULE 22: AVOID PRIDE

In your closet or among people treat pride as a curse. Iron out your differences without external influence. Those who become full of themselves become fooled out of life because pride doesn’t only have the ability to destroy one today but amputate ones future. “If anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceived himself” Galatians 6:3. “Pride leads to disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom”. Proverb 11:2. Humility goes thus, to be humble to superior is duty; to equals, courtesy; to inferiors, nobility; to spouse, love. Therefore, stay humble or else you stumble. Don’t let your pride become inflated; you may have to swallow it someday.


RULE 23: AVOID ANGER

Anger and anxiety if given an opportunity to reign in one’s life will not only reduce and lock up spiritual power out of one’s life, but will also play the role of spiritual power neutralizer.


RULE 24: DON’T FAIL TO PLAN

Your future begins, with whatever is in your hands today. Pray towards your goal for when you fail to plan, you are planning to fail. Let love, prayerfulness and diligence be your watch word.


RULE 25: AVOID BAD HABIT

Bad habit is an ingredient of home destruction, therefore live like a Christian in Christ and not like a criminal in Christ. The law which says don’t womanise or smoke do stand, for they lead one into ungodliness, poverty, hatred, health hazard, constant sorrow, and untimely death. These evils do spread cancer into ones marriage.


RULE 26: USE SAME BED, SAME ROOM

Wisdom surpasses power as light do to darkness. No matter how large your home or the numbers of rooms in your apartment, ensure to use same bed and room with your partner.

This reduces suspicion and improves love among couples.


RULE 27: CHECK WHAT THEY WATCH

Your children are your mirror, educate them on what to watch. Ensure their centre of interest to be, educative programs. Children should not be allowed to watch demonic films, nude films or visit cinema houses. Parents who claim to be occupied with work against the supervision of their children are grooming what may consume them in the nearest future. As children watch satanic movies, harmful and corrupt practices are transmitted into their minds.


RULES 28: AVOID PASSING JUDGEMENT.

Most family passes judgment on neighbors, family friends, in-laws and relatives against the will of God. This is sin, for the Lord said “thou shall not put thyself in a position of a judge”. Some families form the habit of assessing and passing judgment against their Pastors or General Overseer. This is dangerous. Instead pray for them to overcome principality and powers that may be assigned against them.



RULE 29: MARRIAGE CORRECTION

It is unbiblical to live as couple and have children without proper marriage. If you still indulge in this type of marriage please meet the marriage committee of your Church so that right step may be taken.

There was a case of a brother whose wife denied him of sex and when he was annoyed, his wife simply told him “I am fed up of committing adultery”?


RULE 30: PAY YOUR TITHE.

Pay your tithe always for it is the commandment of God. To obey is better than sacrifice. Your tithe is the 10% of your income. When you pay it, things will not be tight for you, your progress shall not be tied to a specific place or level. Also, it will enable you not to tie the hand of God, making Him a spectator over your situation. Hence, pay your tithe and experience open heaven of abundance, blessing, joy, success and glory.



PRAYER POINTS

1. O Lord, let holiness overshadow my marriage, in the name of Jesus.

2. O Lord empower me to see, to know and to command situations prevailing against my marriage, in the name of Jesus.

3. O God of Elijah, arise and decree supernatural greatness into my marriage, in the name of Jesus.

4. I command every satanic ambulance delegated for evil purposes against my household to catch fire, in the name of Jesus.

5. My marriage, you shall not dwell in the valley of failure, in the name of Jesus.

6. O Lord clothe my marriage with your beauty and glory and empower us to guide it jealously, in the name of Jesus.

7. I command every seed and evil plants of disobedience in my marriage to wither and die, in Jesus name.

8. I command evil occupant in my apartment, roof or ceiling to fall down and die, in the name of Jesus.

9. I pull down by fire, satanic altar built for my sake, in the name of Jesus.

10. Spirit of satanic evangelism assign to cause break up in my marriage die, in the name of Jesus.

11. Every arrow of confusion fired into my life and my marriage backfire by fire, in the name of Jesus.

12. In the day and at night, terror shall not swallow my marriage, in the name of Jesus.

13 I command every power of poverty troubling my marriage to be cancelled, by the blood of Jesus.

14. I cleanse by the blood of Jesus every evil mark fashioned against my marriage, in the name of Jesus.

15. O Lord set my marriage free from grief in the name of Jesus.

16. Holy Spirit, founder of new beginning, begin new thing in my marriage, in the name of Jesus.

17. I soak the existence of my marriage in the pool blood of Jesus.

18. O Lord let all provocations I do experience lead me to promotion, in the name of Jesus.

19. Our finances shall not be eaten up by cankerworm, in the name of Jesus.

20. I build my marriage upon solid rock of Ages and it shall not break, in the name of Jesus.

21. Divine solution and answer to my prayer overshadow us in the name of Jesus.

22. Fruitfulness and multiplication of joy shall be the portion of my marriage, in the name of Jesus.

23. This season shall be a season of laughter and joy to me, in the name of Jesus.

24. My hopes shall not be dashed my marriage shall progress, in the name of Jesus.

25. I shall rejoice because the Lord shall answer me, in the name of Jesus.

26. I thank you Lord for showering blessings into my marriage in the name of Jesus.








CHAPTER TWO

THIRTY WISE SAYINGS OF MARITAL SUCCESS

Whenever the rainbow appears in the clouds, I will see it and remember the everlasting covenant between God and all living creatures of every kind on the earth - Genesis 9;16; THE LORD ALMIGHTY

Couples should share love that makes rainbow i.e. presence of God to be seen in their lives.


2. Do not find fault, find a remedy - HENRY FORD

By this, your marriage shall enjoy harvest of progress.


3. No pain, no palm; no thorns, no throne; no gall, no glory;

No cross, no crown -WILLIAM PENN

You cannot eat your cake and have it. It is what you sow you will reap.


4. If you are not properly married, you have stolen a wife-DR. D. K. OLUKOYA

The union between couples should be solemnised by both parents. Never enroll in the school of failure. Do marriage correction if you are not properly married.


5. Laughter is the tranquilizer with no side effects - ARNOLD GLASGOW.

Capture your environment with smiles and laughter, by this, your horse can pass through the eyes of a needle. Laughter is a burden.


6. God created the world out of nothing, and as long as we are nothing, he can make something out of us -MARTIN LUTHER.

Be humble at all times. Sincere humility attracts, lack of humility subtracts while artificial humility detracts. Also, to be humble to superiors is duty, to equals courtesy; to inferiors, nobility. Anyone who looks up to God rarely looks down on people.


7. A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks-CHARLES GORDY.

A smile is a powerful weapon; you can even break ice with it. It creates happiness in the home, foster goodwill in business, brings rest to weary, cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad and best anti-dote nature for trouble.


8. If you are patient in one amount of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow - CHINESE PROVERBS.

Anger do delay progress and destroy harvest.

9.When angry, count to ten before you speak, if very angry, count to a hundred - THOMAS JEFFERSON.

Anger is just one letter short of danger. If you speak when you are angry, you will make the speech you will ever regret


10.If Moses had been a committee, the Israelites would still be in Egypt - J.B. HUGHES.

Do not procrastinate. Take right step quickly, move the family forward



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